No matter what, it feels like you’re inherently wrong by just existing as yourself.
You’ve told yourself the story that if you did things the “right way” (study hard, attend college, job with retirement), things will eventually get easier:
you’ll have less pressure to constantly prove yourself
you’ll have better relationships
you’ll finally feel like you’re enough.
Except things aren’t easier and you’re feeling more trapped (and like a failure to boot) than ever for this life you worked so diligently to create.
Not only do you have debt to pay (for all the schooling… was it a good investment if you feel like you’re financially trapped or obligated to your family?) but it feels like you’re walking through land minds around friends and family making sure not to offend or disappoint.
Honestly, you just thought you have a bad attitude, are selfish, or just weird for not being happy. As often as you remind yourself on why you should be grateful for what you have, it leaves you feeling more discouraged with your reality.
The world feels grey as you trudge through with day, carrying the weight of boredom, lack of inspiration, and a smidge of hopelessness.
All this while wearing the mask that everything is okay, which is exhausting if you’re being genuine.
You don’t think of yourself as a person who needs therapy.
This is really about self-discipline.
To go to therapy would mean that you have to open a vault of truths that weren’t supposed to leave the confines of your brain.
But how much space is there to hoard more thoughts and disappointments you’re collecting? It’s definitely time to do some spring cleaning in your mind, offloading the pressures and expectations you carry.
You need a therapist who can hang with you, without judgment, as you’re trying to untangle the mess in your mind - you want to figure out what it really is that you want and for it be enough.
Because whatever this is, it’s not it.
We’re not the type of the therapists who put the bandaid on for the superficial aesthetic of happiness. No, we’re here to dive in deep, challenge your perspective, and empower you in being you.
Psssst. Hey you.
I’m Alison Gomez, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, owner of this fantabulous practice, and passionately curious.
We specialize in challenging the system (fuck you, white supremacy) by empowering BIPOC to embrace joy and not take responsibility for a system that harms (I see you, generational trauma). It’s not just about being resilient, because I know you are. It’s about not having to be resilient for once. Living is more than maintaining the status quo of pain, but for creativity, authenticity, and connection.
We’re committed to giving you a space to air your grievances with work, family, and friends knowing full well how caring of a person you are.
We’re committed to not just assuming the problem is you, knowing that there is a whole context that is often missed in sharing your story.
If you’re tired of convincing yourself that you’re okay and long to actually be fulfilled, inspired, and understood, we’re your people.
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